There is evidently sharp contrast between what the people want us to believe and the results of their true actions where issues of love are concerned. Many people out there have managed to extract sexual relations from the previously all inclusive love package. It’s very heart-sickening to note that people are now engaging into casual sex. Doing it just for the love of the game – but can we handle the consequences?
What are don’t understand is what kind of a man has sex with somebody they can’t even begin to imagine getting married to? For all I know people (both men and women) respect their bodies (normally) such that one wouldn’t even use a dirty toilet to take a pee. Then what happens to that dignity when it comes to sex?
Unwanted / unplanned pregnancies are a major contributor to broken hearts and abortions. I have seen people giving up their careers because of unplanned pregnancies that take place as a result of a ‘mistake’ within two people that are genuinely in love and wouldn’t let anyone or anything come in between them but let us remember that where genuine love is involved, the unborn baby is also encapsulate within that love and can never by any means be aborted. It seems that ladies are prime victims in the circle of heart breaks as they are often left to single-parent babies or with hearts to mend.
I really don’t have a clue as to what must be done to get the message stuck into the ladies’ minds that pregnancy outside marriage isn’t the way to go. Chances are the person who impregnates you outside marriage will not marry you. A guy sees a well groomed young lady probably at college, university or in the corporate world. Because you have little or no responsibilities you (as a lady) are able to take good care of yourself and hence remain very attractive. That way you catch every eye on the way and keep heads turning, when you walk into a room even the furniture could feel your presence. All that A-list appearance takes an about turn as soon as you miss your periods and the doctor or self test device confirms that you’ve conceived.
It’s a pity that some ladies are stupid enough to believe that the best way to keep a man close is to ‘bind them’ with pregnancy. Yes, some do win but quite a number of South African women are living the life of destitute as a result of these kinds of pregnancies and are relying on the government for social funding. Women are supposed to be the beauty of the world not the burden. It is my strong belief that women could make great leaders if only they took pride in themselves. There is no dignity in selling your body in exchange for feeling loved. Being allowed into a nice car is not a guarantee of love but could be part of being loved or in a worst case scenario it’s simply because something you have is in demand with men. In simple English you are a prey and the predator, when he looks at you only sees what he wants not who or what you are. When a lion sees a springbok all that registers in its mind its ‘food, yummy!’ in other words (depending on the character of an individual) a man (obviously one with a mind of a predator) sees a woman for what she probably looks like when naked than what everyone else sees.
A character of a woman can go a long way to determine who and what people see. I know women with dignity and who present themselves in like manner.
Mistakes do happen that even the most descent of women happens to let go of her guards and unfortunately fall prey to predators. She will however recollect herself, count her loses and move on. It takes some serious self-regrouping for a young lady to follow her dreams after being left with a baby to take care of and hence it takes real women to let go of the mistakes of the yesteryear and sing along to the song “I’m coming home”
They say where there is love there is a way. Women can still change the face of the world and be the roses that God intended for them to be. Remember changing the world doesn’t mean you have to stand before a crowd of thousands and shout “Yes, We Can…” and they respond with cheers and standing ovations. You can make a difference by changing you.
As painful as it is to be left with hearts to mend, a child to raise and sometimes scars on the face and embarrassment to live with, you can still be the person that you were always meant to be.