Let me set the record straight. First of all, I’m not trying to be deep with this piece, but merely trying to fathom this conundrum called LOVE. I call it a conundrum because it boggles the mind. Secondly, I’m not trying to mimic Shakespeare, a man who so eloquently spoke and so impeccably wrote about love. If he knew I’m writing this piece, I am sure he would go berserk. And may his poetic soul rest in peace – I nearly said piece.
Avid Bible scholars will know what the holy Book says about love, which is found in the book of Corinthians – the chapter speaks about what love is, and for the benefit of those who have never read it this is how it reads – Love suffers long and is kind; love does not envy; love does not parade itself, is not puffed up; does not behave rudely, does not seek its own, is not provoked, thinks no evil; does not rejoice in iniquity, but rejoices in the truth; bears all things, believes all things, hopes all things, endures all things.
Love never fails.
So, now that we have some idea what the good Book says about love, let us delve deep in what I thought LOVE was. I thought love was festooned with glittery and glamorous things. I thought heartaches and a gazillion of headaches were part of the package. How wrong I was! You see, if you fall in love, then someday you will fall out of it. But if you grow in it, you will absolutely not grow out of it. Agree?
I have had relationships before and in most of them I have misused the word love. Instead of saying I like you, I said I love you. I, however, should not blame myself because I never really knew the difference. In my mother tongue like and love are the same. But now that I’m a man (even though some disagree, yes you, you know who you are) my days of being infantile in the love department are over. Can I please get an Amen, baby?
Many writers have tried writing about love and some have come close to nailing it. And the least said about the rest the better. One writer wrote, “Everyone says love hurts, but that’s not true. Loneliness hurts. Rejection hurts. Losing someone hurts. Everyone confuses these things with love, but in reality LOVE is the only thing in this world that covers up all the pain and makes us feel wonderful again. Yep, could not have said it better myself. Not so long ago I had a conversation with a certain guy. He told me how hurting he was because his woman has repeatedly toyed with his heart and for a moment I felt like Dr. Phil.
As the dude spoke, a few ideas came to mind. “Look“, I said. “When you say you love someone you actually mean something pulchritudinous. You declare to him or her that you are willing to die for him/ her. As the head of a relationship you need to be selfless and hence the bible says husbands love your wives.” So ja, in a nutshell that is what I think love is. “Take it, do not take.” I told him.
Dear reader, if your partner is constantly hurting you, then trust me, you are not in love. I suggest you pack your heart and go, but it should start in the mind. Let us stop loving with our hearts and start loving with our heads. Remember, emotions are deceiving.